"all cosplay is equal, no one is better than anyone else"
Um how about no? There will always be someone better than you, it’s a fact of life, and if you can’t deal with that and work harder to be better and instead try to hide away the truth with ridiculously fake positivity you need to go and grow a fucking pair and get some fucking life skills
How come no one on this website can be a fucking adult
While I do agree that the fake positivity in the cosplay community is exhausting and unnecessary, I think that’s just a part of tumblr as a whole, not specifically the cosplay community. You’ll see all sorts of diatribes on this site about how it’s okay to be [generally negative trait here] and to “just be yourself!” without any self-reflection, and most really just reinforce people in their insecurities; it fosters a community where everyone settles for their own mediocrity and never strive to improve themselves or their skills. It says “anyone who disagrees with you, even with the kindest of intentions, is wrong and you are never culpable.”
If there is going to be a community ethos as far as avoiding arrogance, it shouldn’t be about equality or everyone being on the same playing field, because that’s nonsense; there are beginner cosplayers and there are master-class/artisan cosplayers and there are people all in-between, and comparing them is like putting a kid making up box of mac ‘n cheese up against Gordon Ramsay. They’re completely different categories. You can’t look at someone with little experience and deride them for not having the skills of a trained veteran, but you also can’t look at that trained veteran and discount their decades of hard work with some unrealistic idea of equality. Hell, you can’t even compare beginners –– some people have resources, some don’t. Some have time, some don’t. Some have the aptitude, some don’t. For that reason, I think it’s fair to judge everyone on their own merits rather than either denying or fixating on people with more skills.
I’d much rather see a mantra around the cosplay community more along the lines of “if you’re having fun and are reaching your own goals, you’re doing great.” Nobody else has to factor into it at all. Acknowledging more skilled costumers is important, but one should focus most on oneself and one’s own skills.
But that said, shame on the people who see themselves as superior to others merely because they are more skilled or more popular or more conventionally attractive; to be held in higher regard should never come at the cost of kindness and helpfulness, and that, I think, is a problem this community has struggled with time and time again. The bullying needs to go, and veteran cosplayers should lead by example.